Depression - peer support forum

My husband is depressed and for me as his partner this is not easy. I take care of our house, our children and our social life for as much that is still there.

Everybody says I should continue with my life. I do that as much as possible and it goes fine.

It's just... at home life doesn't go on. When I come home after a nice evening out, then my depressed husband is there. I cannot expect anything from him. He cannot be happy about anything and only has remarks.

I feel angry, sad and very lonely. I often hear I cannot expect anything from him as long as he is depressed. But is this ever going to get better, or is it better for me to leave?

In the morning I have no reason to get out of bed. No reason to try for. No love, no fortune or happiness everyday, every week. Or does it only look like that?

They told me in the hospital that I am suffering from a depression. Could be, because at the moment I am not happy or joyful.

I am 17, but s many things have happened in my life already.. things I should not have experienced. It's like that's still hanging around somewhere and the last weeks/months it's like I don't give a f*ck anymore, about nothing or no one.

There's no trust in the future and I don't know what to do. I don't want to do this to my parents, they have already enough to deal with. I'd like to go to a therapist, but I don't have money for that because I am young.

So everybody who reads this would help me a lot if you could give some tips, or share your story and how you got out of it. And for the people that feel lost like me, you are not alone, even if you think you are: I'M WITH YOU

Personally, I find it very difficult to deal with depressed people, because I am myself very sensitive to whats happening around me, and I tend to take the negative vibration. It sucks my energy.

Anybody tips?

On the outside everything seems fine: I have a good job, a loving wife, ditto children, still I don't feel well. Since years actually. It seems like that feelings becomes stronger and stronger. I don't know what to do about it. Sometimes I just feel like a sorehead.

Last year I lost my best friend after she was sick for a long time. With her death, a 24-year friendship ended. I miss her immensely and have a hard time dealing with it.

SO many moments like this or that I would like to tell her, and when I look at her picture, it seems so familiar, but she is just not there anymore.

The first months after her death, I was just angry, missed her, and it was hard to share my sorrow. Now I can do that a little bit. I also got a therapist that knows me well and I can talk to him. That makes it easier.

But I also notice that many moments the sadness still overwhelms me. It;s then like for others the world just goes on and for me it seems to stop. As like others don't take time anymore to ask me how I am doing and how it is for me that she died.

My friend was really more like a sister to me, we were so close. I miss her so much..

My girlfriend and me applied for relationship therapy. But my depression was so strong, that I had to do individual therapy first. That made me feel better, mainly because I found myself back again. Now it became clear that I had lost myself completely in the relationship.

I was always the silent type and often felt a bit down. People around me often think I should talk more. They tell me I will feel better.

I try it, but my mood doesn't get any better. I feel guilty about that. I feel like a clown performing a trick.

Those people mean well, so I don't want them to take it wrong. But it makes me even more depressed. How to get out of this?

All my life I adjusted myself so much, that by now I have no idea anymore who I really am, what I long for etc. I got more and more distance to myself and I got depressed feelings.

I always thought that if I would behave like the other wants it, or how I thought the other would like it, then they will like me and they will let me stay around.

By now I found out that it is the other way around. That my opinion and willpower is appreciated.

I am over 50 and I notice its a big challenge to find my self back, but I am defenitely going to take the challenge.

Today I have a bad day again, that happens more often. It started already yesterday at the birthdayparty of my eldest son. I had to work my ass off to be able to give him that party, while we actually did not have money for it.

And then at the of the party my mother in law (because my son was gonna sleep at her place) and I had to work later on, says, ok, then we will take all the presents so that he can play with them. While our youngest son stayed at home with his daddy.

i felt so angry, because the presents should be in our house, just like our oldest son. But my parents in law completely take him which makes me feel like a worthless mom. He sleeps maybe 1 or 2 night a week home and the rest there. I don't want that, but I don't have the power to go against it and to bring him everyday to the daycare where he doesn't want to go.

I Feel unhappy with their father (that still doesn't have a steady job) so that we cannot go to the shop without a calculator to see what we can buy. sometimes i's all too much and I think my kids are better off without me.

i don't like my job, but because my husband doesn't have a steady job I cannot go back to college. I insisted on heaving the family I never had as a kid.

My parents are barely present in my life. my father never wanted me, and here I am, a young mama without any goals or prospects. i should be happy, i have shelter, can give my kids what they want at the expense of the things I would like for myself, got a steady job and a husband that I don't like. It all seems so hopeless for me. My depression comes and goes, but every time I lose... I wish it would stop.

I actually feel depressed since a long time. I can get very negative, everything feels heavy and it feels like everything fails. I often also don't feel like being in contact with other people.

Since some years I take antidepressants. And I do a lot of sports now. Since then I feel a bit better. There are no deep valleys anymore. I can still feel depressed, but it feels less strong now.

I was at a loss. For years I was depressed and I realized I did not want to take antidepressant pills anymore. Every time again I was send to yet another psychiatric institution where they treated me like just another number on the waiting list, so that I had to take those pills for even a longer time. The treatment was mostly about thinking mistakes that I had to learn to live with.

I decided to stop the therapies and
started reducing the pills. Then I had to face myself, but lucky enough I ended up well. I finally found a therapist where I am not constantly looking at the clock to see if it is almost over yet.

I feel treated as a human being and I feel understood. Also that I really can change my depression and that my feelings are not strange and do not have to be repressed.

I can stay close to myself now. I didn't know that I had the power to stay with my feelings and go through the pain in stead of avoiding them. Very happy with that after all those years.

After a heavy delivery in the hospital and a few weeks in the hospital afterwards together with my new born child, I felt exhausted. Back home again, I didn't dare to go outside anymore and I felt depressed. I was like a robot.

Our house doctor thought I had a post natal depression. It took quite some time. I got pills, but they didn't work. Eventually it took a year before I could come out of the valley.

I was dealing for years with a depression. Hypnotherapy was the only cure that really helped.

Some years ago I ended up in a depression. I got medication, but it was not sufficient. I refused to take a higher dose, because with a depression I had before, it was very hard for me to get off the high dose.

So I looked for alternative ways to get a grip on my life again. Hypnotherapy always appealed to me, but I was scared that it would go like you see on tv-shows. But because I felt so shitty and was desperate for help, I decided to give it a chance.

It was nice to find out that hypnotherapy is a real therapy and has nothing to do with what I had seen on television.

After every session I was already looking forward to the next one. Some were tough, because I had to say goodbye to some things. But afterwards I always felt relaxed and calm.
The more sessions I did, the better I felt.

I noticed that in daily life I felt much more relaxed and I was able to apply the learned self-hypnoses on moments I needed it.

I am not on medication for years now and in general I feel good. Depression runs in the family and I often still need to 'fight' the negative thoughts, but thanks to the hypnotherapy this is going well now.

For me this is the only therapy that actually worked.

Hello, I am already since years depressed. I am always tired. Don't feel like doing anything. When I am alone I have to fight my tears. I lost my mother when I was very young and now that I have kids it feels like I have nothing to fall back on. As if I am on my own.

My father has a girlfriend, but she is not so good with kids. It often overwhelms her too. She also doesn't want me to visit during the week, only in the weekends. My father has holiday now, but I cannot come before Sunday. This hurts me a lot. It also feels like I cannot talk about it with anybody. My husband knows, but doesn't know what to do with it.