Tom | Counsellor

Counselling Battle

My name is Tom, I am a qualified counsellor. I welcome both individuals and couples for counselling. 

I use a range of ideas and approaches to explore how the past might be affecting your life in ways that might be problematic, as well as strategies to help deal with difficulties as they arise. Sometimes the defences or methods we use to help us cope with life can cause their own issues, some ways we use to distract ourselves are more manageable than others, but usually looking at what is behind the initial problem is very helpful, although of course this can be difficult and painful as well!

I work with couples to help them understand what may be causing difficulties in their relationship, this is often connected to past experiences being replayed in some way. Blame seems so often to be a major factor in our isues with each other, it seems to be a very unfortunate human characteristic that as part of working out what is happening and why we also tend to try and find  whose fault it is, and we are not so keen on it being ours!

This can easily become a habit which is very hard to break, but understanding this can make a huge difference to a relationship that may well seem to be beyond saving. Of course sometimes it may be that the relationship is not working and the difference are not resolvable, but maybe it's worth exploring this to make sure.

I have helped people with difficulties including anxiety, depression, panic attacks, relationship issues, addictions, bereavement, or just feeling unhappy and lost and not sure what to do next. I enjoy working with people diagnosed as on the autistic spectrum or with other long term health conditions. I also have extensive experience helping long term carers.

I usually charge £20 for the first session, £40 for one hour after that whether for an individual or couples. I am happy to charge the same for two people as I don't see it as twice the work. I can also offer longer appointments if this would be easier as sometimes an hour can feel too short.

If you would like to know more or book and appointment, please send me a message. 

Tom