Confidence, insecurity, self esteem - Tips
Tips for coping with insecurity and low self esteem
Would you like some tips and advice on how to deal with lack of confidence, insecurity, low self esteem?
This forum is a great place to:
- explore several tips.
- respond to tips / share your experience.
- share the tips that work for you.
What's your tip how to deal with lack of confidence, insecurity, low self esteem?
Tip 1 - Get moving and take action
Get moving! If you want change, you will have to do something for it. If you keep doing what you always did, you will get the same results. So you will have to do something else.
Fear of failure can freeze you, which makes it hard to take steps in a different direction. But when you don't take steps, you maintain the situation you don't like.
So get moving and take action!
Tip 2 - Practice mindfulness
Look with a mild, gentle and friendly attention to your fears.
Accept that fear is there, without identifying with it. You are not the fear, you have the fear.
By approaching yourself and your fears in a gentle manner, you can relax deeper and then your fear can become soft too.
Tip 3 - Try out self-approval
When a lifetime of self-criticism did not help you, give self-approval a try and see what happens
Tip 4 - Visualize what you want
Visualize what you do want.
Visualize how you want to be in certain situations, how you want to think, how you want to feel and how you want to act.
Think of a certain current situation where you often feel insecure. And visualize how you would want to feel. Imagine it vividly and try to really feel and experience it.
You are then practicing, in your mind and with your emotions, and you are preparing your body for this situation. You are creating new possibilities.
When the situation presents itself again in the future you have created a new framework, with which you feel differently, you think differently and you act differently.
Tip 6 - I never did it, so I can do it!
The other day I read a great slogan for people that are afraid they are not able to do something they never did before:
Think like Pippi Longstocking that often said: "I never did it before, so I can do it!" And that girl was super good and strong, right?!
Tip 7 - Adjust your attitude
Are you insecure when you enter a room with a lot of unfamiliar people?
For example when you go to a workshop, meeting or party. Do you think they are judging you on your appearance or prestige? Are you insecure, looking around for some eye contact or confirmation and are you hesitant to join a person or a group?
TURN IT AROUND!
Enter the room with your chin up, take a look around at the people to find out who you think is friendly, worthwhile or interesting enough to talk to. Immediately walk towards that person, introduce yourself or shortly say hello.
Realize that it is not needed to have a conversation right a way. Is there nobody you would like to talk to?
Then go and stand on your own next to a table in the following posture: eyes focused a bit upwards, chin slightly up, shoulders hanging loosely down, pelvis pulled a bit inwards, toes slightly pointed outwards.
Stand and feel the ground firmly under your feet. While you stand like that, let your eyes go over the people, relaxed and nonchalant. Or you find an interesting spot just above eye level and look at it attentively. There's a good chance that somebody will come to you and introduces himself! Good luck!
Tip 8 - Dare to ask for what you want.
Dare to ask for what you want.
To ask for what you want you first have to identify what it is, which can be hard in itself.
Therapy is a great way of pulling away the layers and masks and defining what your true needs and wants are in your life!
Tip 9 - Justifying your own choices
If you find yourself justifying your own choices, purchases and lifestyle it may be a good time to pause, check within yourself as to why.
Are you actually unsure and justifying it to yourself as well as them as you speak? Or are you looking for approval?
Tip 10 - Value yourself
Did you grow up with conditions of worth?
Did you tip toe around mum and dad?
Was love conditional on being the good boy/girl?
Working with a counsellor can help you value yourself, without it being conditional. Learn how to give yourself positive regard.
Tip 11 - Recognize the power we have
If we let things just happen in order to avoid having to make a decision, will we end up where we want to?
To face situations head on and to take time to consider our choices can be daunting, but to recognise we do have choices can also be empowering.
It’s so important to recognise the massive amount of power we do already have to change how our life looks and stop acting and living like we don’t!
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