Gintare | Counsellor and Couples Therapist

Integrative Counselling Rochester

Your life - and your relationships - are meant for more than anxiety and distance. I help individuals and couples move from a place of constant “alert” back into deep connection by quieting the noise of overthinking and worry.

My specialism areas:

🌿High-functioning and Relationship anxiety🌿

It can feel heavy, almost suffocating. Yet, despite that weight, you still rise each day. You go to work, you show up for friends and you flash a smile or find the energy to mask the struggle - not because it’s easy, but because you feel like you have to keep going.

You know that anxiety isn't just "in your head." You feel it in the racing of your heart, the stomach-sinking worry and that nauseous flutter that makes it hard to focus. It shows up in your quietest moments and your busiest hours, often following you into your relationships. You might recognise it as the tightness in your chest while waiting for a text, the way you overanalyse your partner’s tone of voice or that protective urge to pull away before you can get hurt. 

Together, we’ll explore how your body responds to the fear and stress that feel overwhelming, helping you understand why your system stays on high alert and, more importantly, how to finally let it rest.

​🌿 Adult Children of Alcoholics (ACoA)🌿

​Growing up in an environment where the "emotional weather" was unpredictable creates a specific kind of internal blueprint. You likely learned early how to read a room, manage others' moods or stay "perfect" just to stay safe.

​This often manifests today as an unrelenting need for control or an "all-or-nothing" loyalty. We will work to unlearn the survival strategies that helped you get through your childhood but are now keeping you stuck in adulthood - moving you towards a version of yourself that feels steady even in the calm.

🌿Couples Therapy🌿

When the space between you feels heavy with silence, sharp words, or the ache of what's unsaid, it can be hard to remember the ease you once shared.

I work with couples integratively, there is no blame here, no "winner" in the story - just two people, equally heard, equally held. We will trace the cycles you fall into (the protest, the shutdown, the reach that goes unanswered) and turn them into softer, braver conversations that actually land.  

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If you are seeking deeper exploration in non-verbal way, I can offer the powerful creative methods, such as sand tray or drawing, to explore emotions and experiences through symbolic expression. 

Use counselling as a tool to create your art of living

I will guide you to see your own value - how amazing you truly are. We can work on finding ways for you to nurture yourself, so you can feel stronger and more steady in your own life. 

Maybe it's time to figure out your boundaries, reclaim your voice and uncover what truly lights you up. 

Remember, your mind is your tool to achieve contentment, joy and inner peace.

If you would like to know more or book an appointment, please send me a message via the send a message - button. 

Gintare