Wendy | Counsellor

Do you think you are either "not enough" or "too much" for the people around you. Perhaps you feel guilty and think "it's all your fault" - that there's something wrong with you. Maybe you're experiencing anxiety and stress as you try to please people.

Individual counselling with me will support you and encourage you to overcome personal challenges and achieve your goals. I can provide a supportive and non-judgemental environment where you can explore your thoughts and feelings, gain insights into your behaviour, and develop strategies for positive change. 

What I specialise in  - full list of things I work with is on my profile.

Feeling lost/ loss of identity: 

Feeling lost can be caused by several factors, such as a lack of purpose, fulfilment, or direction. Right now, it may seem like life has no meaning. The important thing to tell yourself is that you need to go easy on yourself instead of blaming yourself for feeling lost. 

Feeling lost - like life has no purpose or meaning This could be due to: 

• parenting a special needs child or child with complex mental health needs 

• illness or the menopause 

• handling difficult situations such as a job or relationship loss 

• Loss (death or loss of loved one from breakup or job) 

• Emotional factors like anxiety, depression 

Feeling lost can make you question everything such as your relationships, careers and friendships. 

You may feel like you no longer know who you are and this affects your confidence, Self-esteem or self-image. 

Relationship Counselling for individuals: 

Do you struggle to form or maintain relationships with others? Maybe you're afraid to try again as you do not want to get hurt? 

My clients have said it feels like when a relationship ended for them it was ‘their fault ‘or ‘they were too much.’ 

•The if, (If i did it differently or if i didn't say that) 

•I should have, (I should have tried harder, or I should have known) 

•The if only I, (If I did it another way or if I had said something sooner) 

It is hard trying to get over a breakup or to start a new relationship, whether it is commitment issues, previous unpleasant experience or trauma or never been in a relationship. 

Some clients have anxiety from using dating apps, starting fresh with someone new or ending something (e.g. relationship, job, moving etc..) and the anxiety that comes with it. 

I can help you find the mental strength to move forward, be more self-assured and confident in your relationships on a personal, work or friendship level. 

Anxiety: My clients often have anxiety as the core issue and are struggling to manage or cope with this on their own. This includes social anxiety and generalised anxiety disorder. Some clients have anxiety from using dating apps, starting fresh with someone new or ending something (e.g. relationship, job, moving etc..) and the anxiety that comes with it. 

Depression: We all have times when our mood is low, and we're feeling sad or miserable about life. Usually, these feelings pass in due course. But if the feelings are interfering with your life and don't go away after a couple of weeks, or if they come back repeatedly for a few days at a time, it could be a sign that you're experiencing depression. 

Work related stress: My clients are going through a career change, do not like their jobs anymore or have started in a new job role and find it overwhelming or stressful. It's helpful to learn how to manage stress caused by work. If you often experience feelings of stress, you might be at risk of developing a mental health problem like depression or anxiety.