Spini | Bereavement and Trauma Integrative counsellor

Registrations

• BACP - The British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy
• TCUK - Therapycounselling UK

Specialisations

I specialise in Bereavement (grief and loss), Trauma, Anxiety and Anger. 

BEREAVEMENT

Bereavement or situations of loss can be hard to deal with. They can lead to feelings of helplessness, anxiety and depression. Feelings of loneliness where you might feel unseen, unheard, unvalued and uncared for. Having gone through losses myself, I understand the pain and confusion that comes with grief. My journey might be different from yours, but this has helped me realise the kind of environment that is needed for people to feel truly heard, seen and be compassionately curious about who they really are.

Given how complex and overwhelming things can feel, it can be difficult to talk to our family and friends about our problems; it is often easier to speak to someone who is not emotionally involved in our lives. Nothing is too big or too small to be talked about. I provide a non-judgemental space where you can be truly yourself and feel safe to open up and explore your worries and experiences together. There are no coping strategies that can take the pain away, but we can work together to take steps to sooth your pain, find meaning through your loss and make your grieving process easier to move through No one can understand your grief but yourself.

Grief counselling can help you to address the intense emotions to help you move on with your healing process. This can lead to gaining a greater understanding of your own feelings and emotions, learning new ways of approaching situations and using alternative strategies to help you cope better.

TRAUMA

My approach is to listen and understand your experiences. Feeling your feelings, and accepting them, is key to healing from trauma. Trauma can affect other aspects of your life like relationships and many more. Our past life experiences can have a lasting effect on our current situations, leaving us sometimes feeling hopeless about the future. We have so much unprocessed pain in our system, collective wounds we are carrying that that contributes to dysfunctional behaviours. The limiting believes contributes to believers of unworthiness, I am not good enough, a lot of shame and fear, which manifest from our childhood, and through trauma therapy we can explore that.

Counselling can provide space for people to talk about their feelings, fears and difficulties without having to worry about the impact on their friends and family. This gives people the opportunity to work out a meaningful way to move forward. In today's world we are surrounded by distractions: boxsets, food, alcohol, the list goes on. There is nothing fundamentally wrong engaging with any of these things. However, for many of us, they can become tools to help us cope with day-to-day stresses, to obscure from us what we may be feeling within.

These feelings can often be signposts towards unconscious or subconscious memories and experiences from our early years, 'wounds' which need our conscious attention, for us to be happy and thrive. Through my practice I can assist you in identifying the roots of these feelings and thus begin the process of healing.

ANGER

Anger is a natural response often used as a protective mechanism to shield ourselves from intensity or to hide from the painful emotions. It is a necessary emotional feedback from our system, and it surfaces due to feelings of helpfulness, when we feel powerless or when our boundaries have been crossed. It happens at unconscious level because it’s been suppressed. Our upbringing and society have an influence on our anger suppression. This can be because we were not taught how to express ourselves from our formative years, we were hushed and told to do as we were told, or it could be that we suppressed our emotions with fear of losing relationships, being abandoned and many more reasons.

Together we can work on how to integrate your emotions rather than get rid of them. Learn how to live with it and learn how to connect with those feelings when they arise so that you can maintain them in a functional way. I often use Cognitive Behavioural Therapy tools in my practice. With CBT, we will look at how your thoughts affect your emotions and experience.

Most common issues I support people with:

• Bereavement (grief and loss)

• Trauma

• Anger management

• Anxiety

• Stress related issues

Fees

£50 per session. Concessionary prices available for those on low income/students

Fees to be paid before the session commences. 24hrs before the session for bank transfers and before the session starts for cash in hand.

Further information

I offer 50mins sessions at the same time each week.

You can contact me for a free 15 minute consultation. Therapy may be short or long term and I usually suggest a commitment of a minimum of 6 sessions in order to give the counselling process the opportunity to develop. The length of the counselling then becomes open-ended if you do decide to continue. Sessions usually include exploring what you are hoping to achieve by the time you finish our sessions and exploring a plan we can work towards for you to achieve your desired outcome.

Availability (Opening hours)

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