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My husband is depressed

My husband is depressed and for me as his partner this is not easy. I take care of our house, our children and our social life for as much that is still there.

Everybody says I should continue with my life. I do that as much as possible and it goes fine.

It's just... at home life doesn't go on. When I come home after a nice evening out, then my depressed husband is there. I cannot expect anything from him. He cannot be happy about anything and only has remarks.

I feel angry, sad and very lonely. I often hear I cannot expect anything from him as long as he is depressed. But is this ever going to get better, or is it better for me to leave?


Anonymous
> 2 years ago

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Hello, I feel very sorry for you, I know all about it, I'm in the same situation.

It is difficult I am already 4 years every night alone never laughter on holidays just sleeping or negativity and sometimes I cannot handle it anymore.

I hope you have kids that can give some distraction. We are just with the two of us. I am a fighter and cannot get it how somebody can let himself go like that and live like that.

Sweet greetings Carin


Carin
> 2 years ago
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I am the same. We have a beautiful daughter, house over our heads, family who care and help. We had the best relationship for 10 amazing years. We were glued at the hip, wouldn't dream of going out without the other. Then our daughter was born, with birth trauma and medical procedures, and he fell apart. The first year was a nightmare, both of us on anti depressants and getting counselling for PTSD, doctors appointments, hospital visits.

By 18 months post birth, I started feeling better, got my Self back and started enjoying life again. It has now been 3yrs and 2 months since I last seen my "real" husband. Instead, I see a shadow, no...a black hole, shaped like my loving, fun, caring husband. Every scenario can only go wrong. I can't even go out by myself, because he says he can't cope with having our daughter on his own. I feel trapped. I'm thinking I need to save my daughter. She has seen me cry on a few occassions, and now has a special cloth for wiping mummy's tears (breaks my heart) My husband accuses me of not caring about his mental health, that I want to take everything away from him. That I'm making his illness worse. I often think he's right, that if I wasn't around, he'd get better soon.

Mrs S
> 2 years ago

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